Just Feel It, Then Heal It, Then You Will Move On

You just have to feel it and then you will move on. A phrase I once heard I am not sure whether in Greys Anatomy or what exactly, but how true it is shocked me. How we always ignore what we are feeling and refrain from believing it already happened and just keep living in denial and hence in pain for longer than we should.Break ups are hard, dramatic and painful, but if you find yourself in one , wipe all the tears and clean all the candy wraps and have an honest talk with yourself, ask yourself what the fuck did you do? and what the fuck are you doing? and what the fuck will you do? What the fuck did you do to cause this break up? did you had a hand in doing this? did you have a good thing with that person and you ruined? long story short, was it your fault? and please don't guilt yourself into it, answer an honest answer without creating excuses for that other person, if your answer was NO , then let's move to the other question, What the fuck you are doing? Why are you crying over someone who willingly chose not to be with you? I'm not saying that you shouldn't cry , all i'm saying is not to cry over someone who broke your heart, cry over the time you have wasted , cry over yourself when you chose to ignore all the red flags that have been raised during your relationship and you stayed anyway. Next question will be what the fuck you will do? Which is the most important question among all, What will you do afterwards? I certainly wish that your answer won't be I'll try to win him back , What will you do next with your life afterwards is the most important phase. How long will you stay wallowing and reminiscing about what was there?As humans, and specially girls , we tend to ex aggregate, we dig the drama and it's true ,  I sometimes surprise myself by how much of a drama queen I can be, I'm not saying ignore your feelings , all I am saying if you thought of the situation with your brains , you will find everything replaceable , that boy that left you, that job you lost, and what's most important that you should never cry over something that you lost, yes cry for a couple of days but don't give it more than it deserves , think of what you are gonna do next to feel better, don't wallow in your sorrow and ruin tomorrow with yesterday's incidents, Tomorrow will only be better if you wanted it to be , you won't feel better unless you want to. it's the power of your own will, if you learned to think rationally in everything you will never feel any pain. Annoyed over this guy who you just broke up with?  Where the fuck is he? Unless he is trying to win you back then you shouldn't waste another minute on him, Life is too short to waste it on people who doesn't appreciate us, Life is god's greatest gift to us , you should spend it being happy , and its your choice its all in your hands , being pathetic and helpless is a choice not a disability.